Family Advent Wreath

Advent means, "the coming of" or "the arrival of" something important.  The season of Advent in the Christian tradition means the coming of or arrival of the Messiah, who we accept to have been in the person of Jesus of Nazareth.  Advent is a season of preparation for Christians world wide. 

With such a secular emphasis being placed on the time preceding Christmas Day with shopping and sales and parties, children confuse the real meaning of Christmas (the birth of the Christ child) with the tradition of culture (Santa Claus).  While the Santa Claus tradition started in Christian tradition with a generous Bishop, Santa unfortunately has become far removed from the true meaning of Christmas.  If you would like a story to read to your child which incorporates Santa into the Christian tradition, I recommend "A Special Place for Santa."

Considering all the hoopla that goes with the build up to Christmas with " x number of shopping days until Christmas" and the hype culture places on receiving rather than giving, it is difficult for children to understand the significance and importance of the preparing for the coming Messiah.  It is especially difficult because many times parents do not know how to talk with their children about Advent.

The story of the baby born in a manager is what we focus on, but we forget the why.  We forget that there were generations anxiously awaiting the coming of this child.  We neglect to tell the story before the birth that makes the coming of the Messiah so special, and the real meaning of Christmas loses its significance.  To reclaim the anticipation that the season of Advent brings, which enables us to truly celebrate the birth of the Christ, we must build this anticipation and longing.  We must go back and try to imagine a time without Christ.

To help parents teach their children the significance of Advent, I will be posting Family Advent Wreath meditations for parents and children to do together as you light a candle each Sunday of Advent.  You will need Advent candles.  These can be a simple as votive candles placed in a circle, or there are many styles available for purchase.  For those families who are in Cushing, we will have some available for you to purchase at the church.  I hope this is helpful for those of you with children and teens.

There are five candles total:  3 purple (or blue), 1 pink (rose), and1 white.  Any type of candle holders placed in a circle on inline works just fine.  There are some available on line, many of these do not have the white candle (Christ candle) which is always placed in the center, so you would need to supply that as well.  Here are a few links for Advent Wreaths online:

A simple one from Amazon (you would need to purchase the center Christ candle in white)
A fabric one with attachable candles (for parents of smaller children if you are worried about fire)
One with the nativity figures (candles not included)
There are many others available just search for "advent wreath and candles."

Good Food

Sermon November 21, 2010 on John 6:25-35.  Jesus makes the "I am" statement saying he is the bread of life come down from heaven.  The crowd kept wanting bread that perishes, or a sign (although Jesus had performed many).  What do we ask from Jesus that we are asking for the wrong thing?

The children of Israel in the wilderness found that if they hoarded the manna, it would spoil.  When we hoard Jesus, try to keep Jesus just to ourselves, without sharing with others, we find that we are spiritually empty, even though we know where to find the bread of life.  How do we hoard Jesus?

This thanksgiving, as we give thanks, let us also ask how we are, as the body of Christ in the world, to be bread of life for others.

Giving Thanks

The table is set with the finest, and the feast is laid; there is turkey, and sometimes ham.  Generally, you can find a selection of potatoes mashed, scalloped and au gratin.  Green bean casserole is always a favorite, and we must have buttery rolls, rich gravy, cranberry sauce, and stuffing.  Often there are sweet potatoes with gooey marshmallows browned and melting on top, and a variety of pies, pecan, pumpkin, and apple to name just a few.  We gather with family and/or friends, and sometimes even our pets.  There are parades and sporting events on the television to entertain us, and overall it is a time and a space to eat our fill and then take a late afternoon nap drifting away as some of the younger family members play games or just chat and catch up on life.  Thanksgiving is a time we stop and say thank you for the blessings in our lives.  And this is just one of many scenarios that are played out in America on the fourth Thursday of November.

However, for many people, this is just another day.  For many there isn’t enough money or food to fully set a feast.  Maybe our family doesn’t get along, or we find ourselves alone.  Maybe there is a crisis going on and we find we are away from family, friends.  One Thanksgiving Day when I was a child I remember watching two boxes of frozen turkey dinners, the kind in a little compartmentalized tray, slowly making their way down the conveyor belt at the grocery store checkout.  They were just right about eye level with me, and I watched as they slowly made their way to the clerk who punched the prices into the cash register, took my father’s money and placed the boxes in a paper sack.  I don’t remember much being said.  Did the woman think it strange that an older man and a young girl were buying frozen turkey dinners on Thanksgiving Day rather than having a turkey dinner with all the trimmings with family?

My mother was in the hospital, and while daddy took care of me well, he was by no means the primary caretaker of little girls.  Mom had many health issues when I was little, and from the somber tone, although I am sure I was not fully informed on everything going on, it seemed pretty serious.  I remember it was a cold, gray, drizzly day and dad was trying to keep the spirit of Thanksgiving.  The problem was it just didn’t seem like a festive day.  There were no traditions kept or relatives to see.  There were no dishes to do or ignore.  We had frozen turkey dinners and went to visit mom in the hospital.

Since then, I have given some thought as to the purpose of Thanksgiving.  Originally, it was a time to thank God for the harvest and for the settlers’ good friends, the Native Americans, who kept them alive in a strange new land.  It was a religious moment when we could give thanks as the scriptures instruct “in all circumstances.”  That day as a child, I remember my father bowing his head and giving thanks to God for all God’s mercies.  That day I began a journey that took years to travel of understanding how to give God thanks in all circumstances.

Any more Thanksgiving is more of a secular holiday than religious.  A day off work, a day to feast, watch football and parades, a day to visit relatives, some you may never see (or really want to) at any other time.  But in my heart it will always be a memory of my father bowing his head over a frozen turkey dinner thanking God for God’s mercies.  This Thanksgiving I would encourage you to give thanks in all circumstance and to lift a prayer of petition for those who may not be celebrating as you might – those who are hungry or thirsty – those who are sick or in prison – those who live impoverished lives – those who are isolated or alone – those who need love or reconciliation.  Pray for those who God loves and many times we forget, and give thanks.

Published in The Corridor Magazine, November 2010 issue

Raising Children

Sermon, November 14, 2010, Children's Sabbath.  The text used was Acts 2:17-18, Proverbs 22:6, and Matthew 18:1-5.  Children are a gift of God, but Jesus also encouraged us to become like a child to be able to see the kingdom of heaven.  Do we have the eyes of a child?  Can we see what they see?

Do This in Remembrance of Me

Sermon Sunday, November 7, 2010 on 1 Corinthians 11:17-29.  Paul was admonishing the Church at Corinth for their divisiveness.  He was also instructing them on how to worthily take the Lord's Supper, the Sacrament of Jesus.  How do we let our attitude about others diminish our joy at receiving the sacrament?